The sands of time move at a different rate through the hour glass of our years. One person at 75 can be 10 years older or younger in thought and in action than the next 75 year old. I think those that genuinely feel younger and maybe are working hard to stay as much behind the age curve, do no think about aging in place in the same way. As in, I do not have to do this yet, those decisions can wait until another 3-5 years. Being mentally and physically competent is a powerful thing and when you are bestowed with good health and feel that life is still your oyster not a barnacle, why focus too much on the future?
But it is that reality that you have more time that baffles some people. I read recently that the alcohol use (as well as drug use) is way up among boomers and seniors. Surprisingly the rise is more pronounced than with the younger millennial. The binge dinker (4-5 drinks at a time) is now overshadowed by the warning that someone who imbibes up to 14 drinks a week is in trouble. Any medical problem you have over the age of 50 is going to be made worse by that much alcohol.
Why are a goodly percentage of boomers doing this? The proposed answer is that retirement used to be a short gig. You worked, you stopped. You had a few years to do things, then you were gone. Now people face or are favored depending on your perspective with one two maybe even three more decades of living. Many people are at a loss as to what to do or have money problems weigh heavily. Out living your savings is a common fear. So the drinking too much becomes part of the answer and in some way the solution.
Boomers on average are retiring later but have 20 years to fill up with activity and purpose. I guess the best thing is to tuneup your perspective. I have just discovered a series of books by Chris Crowley that helps with that. The optimistic title of his latest book is Younger Next Year. As a reviewer notes: “Nobody expresses the positivity of younger old age with more enthusiasm than Chris Crowley in his “Younger Next Year” series. Listen to him: “So here I sit, on the edge of my seventies, full of projects, curiosity, and optimism. I believe I am going to have an interesting life, maybe even a useful life, in my very last years. I am not going to pass them in idleness, petulance and anxiety, which is the way it looked for awhile. Not bad.”
You cannot turn the hourglass to flow back the other way, but you can have a more positive view that there are still more possibilities in life.